People are not as easily annoyed as you might think.
And people whom we call “friends” in name, but rarely spend time with — I believe would love to hear from us more; even if it were just for a favor.
The crazy thing to me is, there seems to be a natural tendency to distance ourselves and our situations from people we call friends. We likely have a very small circle who serve as our default go to group when needing help. But there are people whom we have an ‘ok’ relationship with, but never seem to cross the line that keeps us at a distance.
It was probably a few years ago when I realized that if I wanted to get closer to people when our lives wouldn’t naturally intersect, that I would need to start calling on them for random requests; ie. help me move… give a ride to/from the airport… pray for me, etc.
When someone asks for my help – I think they trust me and they consider me a friend.
When I see people continually ask others for help and assistance – but don’t ask me — I generally think I’m a little further out from the group. I feel distance.
Of course we can over do it, and make people want to avoid our calls… But most of us are very busy and self sufficient people and this isn’t the problem.
The problem is in the idea that we have this chasm in our associations that aren’t getting crossed.
I’m certain you have ‘friends’ whom you don’t see or talk to enough. Or you have associates whom you’d like things to get a little closer.
I dare you to ask a favor from someone whom you normally wouldn’t and see if it doesn’t bring a new level to the relationship.
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